A Box of Possibilities
About 7 years ago when our son Greer was in kindergarten Aaron’s sister Rachael moved to New York City. Greer made her a “box of possibilities” to take with her. It was an old box that he’d found and decorated. We have no idea where he came up with the phrase, but it certainly was adorable…and appropriate. She recently moved back home to Tennessee and unpacked the “box of possibilities” that I had long forgotten about and I was again amazed at his insightful gift. He was disappointed to see her go, but excited for her at the same time. He knew she was going on an adventure and that anything was possible. I kind of feel the same way about this house. Aaron and I have always loved old things. We used to drive around and hope to find an old farmhouse that we could live in. One day about 13 years ago Aaron came home from the grocery store with a “for sale” flyer for a house that had been taped to the front of a coke machine. The house was in rough shape, but all we saw was an affordable “box of possibilities.” It soon became our “box of possibilities.”
I’ve been reflecting a lot on our home and how other people perceive it over the last few weeks. First let me clear up that other people’s perception isn’t really what matters to us at all. I mean we care about you, our neighbors, our family, and our friends, but what you think doesn’t really drive our decisions on what to do around here. If it did the front landscape of our home would not be overgown and still on the to-do list while other more private areas of our property that we use are rustic-cottage garden lovely. We also wouldn’t have kept putting off the awful laundry room and half bath that everyone sees first when they come into our side door (which everyone does) for a later date. These kinds of items are on our to-do list for sure, but they just haven’t jumped to the top yet. However, since we launched our blog and I’ve had subsequent conversations with people from all areas of my life I’ve come to realize that people who only know our home through this blog think of it as a completed show house, full of nifty completed projects. I suppose that’s my fault because I only post the good stuff so I thought I would clear up that misconception. When we look around our home we don’t see a completed home (you wouldn’t either if you were here in person), but we also don’t see an overwhelming laundry list of to-do things (although maybe we’re niave)…instead we prefer to see a “box of possibilities” (a lot of potential.)
Living in a “box of possibilities” can get overwhelming if you’re not careful. I’ve certainly had moments where it has ovewhelmed me and I’ve wanted to throw in the towel for a more completed home. (I mean completed in the traditional sense…you know perfect.) However, over time Aaron and I have mastered the art of enjoying what we’ve accomplished while looking forward to what we want to accomplish. And I’ve realized perfect is a mirage anyway. We get asked a lot about our planning/organization for our many simultaneaous projects and project plans. I’ve read some other impressively organized blogger posts on how they plan projects. I’ve read endless to do lists that are detailed out to what is going to happen and when and in what order. Here’s our secret: we’re just not like that. We don’t have lists of long range developed plans. Do we plan? Absolutely! Having brainstorming conversations is actually something we love to do. We talk about projects A LOT before we actually ever do them. But, we’ve never made a project to-do list that is more long range than a few weeks out. It’s just not how we roll. We talk more in terms about what we’d like to do one day. But, honestly, that is always changing. We brainstorm a lot of ideas and the ones we are passionate about emerge to the top of the list when we feel strongly enough about them. We save up money, materials and ideas to do projects and sometimes even then we change our minds. We’re okay with that. It’s fun for us. It’s about the journey and not the destination. It’s about the possibility of it all. We do it beause we enjoy it, not because of the finished product (although that part is great too.) Talking about projects is something we both love to do. But we just don’t get caught up in worrying about the long list of things we’d like to do one day.
That philosohy makes this post difficult for me. I’ve been asked for a list of what projects are to come from some of you and so even though I don’t like to make project lists I have decided to do it for you. As long as you don’t hold us to this list that is! Here are the projects that we are currently brainstorming about. Disclaimer: it will change! Some will happen, some won’t happen, Other stuff will happen too.
Not even we know what of these things is next on our list, but we’d sure like to hear your opinion on what it should be. In the meantime, if you visit us (which we hope you do) don’t expect to see anything more than a “box of possibilities.” A lot is done. A lot is left to do. We are going to enjoy both. We hope you also enjoy your “box of possibilities”.
P.S. This list includes items from a simple walk through of our house. After writing I have remembered all sorts of things I didn’t include…like refinishing our bathroom cabinet, painting our shutters, building an island for our kitchen, adding a back gate to our garden, sewing new pillows and curtains, oh and learning to sew. This is why we don’t make lists…it would never end! I’m stopping now because I think you get the idea.